I made a note on FB today which yielded the response “Yeah, whatever.” I must admit, I was taken aback. Sometimes, calling out the positives can be misconstrued as rubbing it in others’ faces. Truly that was NOT my intention.
But why did I feel the need to post that I was still smiling from a compliment made in the morning? Perhaps it was because my last few posts ones of complaint about everything from the toilet seat being left up to our house phone ringing after 10 pm. Maybe it was because I was asked why all the secrecy regarding my love life. I suppose I just wanted to share. What is wrong with that anyway?
In this world where seemingly more and more couples have nothing nice to say about each other, I find it refreshing to see this sort of stuff. And when the opposite is witnessed, I am very uncomfortable – especially when the complaints seem to be firing rapidly as if they were shot from a machine gun. I look on and wonder if I was like that too in my marriage. I sure hope not. Moreover, I hope that I am never at a point in a relationship (with ANYONE) where I have only complaints and never compliments.
This week, I find myself repeatedly in situations (work mostly but home too) where I need to point out an issue in need of a solution. I’ve received a whole lot of push back and have found it challenging to remain neutral, point out specifics, and request clarification or action. It’s been difficult to persist when appropriate but also quell my frustration. As the saying goes, if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.
And I suppose, when you can’t muster the best response, the next best thing would be “Yeah, whatever…”
Your comment made me smile, Juls. I could “see” you smiling and it was wonderful! Ignore the “whatevers”. I, too, see couples arguing and complaining on facebook and am surprised that is what they choose to share. Keep on sharing the happiness! :)) You deserve it!!
It’s funny that you’re mentioning this…I saw that on ‘your wall’, and I was sort of…flummoxed! I thought, “Surely this person is kidding?” but then, you know, it wasn’t funny, so I thought maybe I just didn’t understand their humor. :-|
I thought it was sweet ~ Hey! I think I even “liked” it! ~ and I think you should let your light shine and everyone else can pound sand. Oh, see how I did that? My own brand of positivity, in which I thrash everyone. haha!
I kinda think – hope – she was joking. If she wasn’t, something must have been going on.
Sometimes written comments don’t come off as they’re intended to. I also hope she was joking. :)
Have a wonderful weekend!
Wow! I was joking. My bad, next time I just won’t say anything.
Love you and yes, I’m happy your happy….I just wish you weren’t so secretive with your relationship and that you came around more. But don’t get me wrong I am happy for you.
I agree with Irene, but I’ve also met people in miserable relationships and they never seem to have a nice word to say about anyone. I think it’s just their mental state.
And I just saw the comment above mine, and it appears she was joking. Also sounds like she misses you :-)
I love and miss you too, Sis.
maybe the commenter is like me … sometimes my humour doesn’t translate in email. Or worse, I think people are being funny … when actually they are serious!