There are sayings that come out in times of difficulty. Things people say to offer up comfort. Pretty much, they all are a bunch of bologna.
While “he’s in a better place” might comfort some, it never did a thing for me – aside from bring on a rush of anger. Of the 5 in my grief support group, none of us were comforted by this saying.
Then there is the saying offering that God wouldn’t give you more than you could handle. Yeah, whatever. Even if it is true, where’s the comfort in that. Is this all to say that if you drop your coping ability nothing bad will happen to you?
Finally, there is the saying that “things happen for a reason.” This statement may give some hope but for me, uh, not so much. On the other hand, if you were to tell me that saying in something as worrisome but correctable as receiving an insufficient funds notification, then…okay, it may have some meaning. It may be saying, “Get a clue Julie. After spending $10K on a new roof, you need budget.”
Argh! Thank God I’ve got funds in another account.
This made me laugh, then I felt uncomfortable, which I think is the ongoing state of friends of folks who have lost someone. trying to being normal and then wandering if that is the ‘wrong reaction’.
And then over thinking your comment in the comment section till you don’t want to make one because you don’t want your friend to think you are a jerk, or that you don’t think about them.
and then I think maybe I should have just said. Roofs! The leaking! I hear you!
and also. Love.
A lot of times, people say stuff to make themselves feel better :-) just sayin…
This post is a test… to see if the “I feel your pain” comment will come out.
I couldn’t agree more about all 3 of those sayings – no help at all. And God does not selectively dump on people to see how much they can take. Things happen and we react and most of the time it works out. And that’s a good thing.