Recently, I have wondered if my wedding ring has been sending the message that I am Off Limits. A year ago, when I moved it to my right hand, I figured that I was making it clear that I was single. However, I have since noticed that there are a large population of married folks who wear their wedding bands on their right hands.
Lil Sis suggested that I place my ring on a necklace and wear it around my neck. I tried it on for size but my trial lasted all of 12 hours. The little circle looked so insignificant hanging sideways and I worried that it might somehow break free and be lost forever. Sometimes, it feels like I have so little left; I can’t afford to lose this too.
{hug} I’m sorry I have nothing significant to add to a jewelry discussion, but the emotion…I understand that one.
God tells us not to place our values in material things. The ring is destined for non-existence. Your memories will last forever.
Wearing the ring on your finger will almost certainly scare honorable men away. You are a smart person. Figure it out :-)
Not yet, Wes. Maybe after I get past the 3 year mark.
Yeah, unless someone knows you, the right hand would not be so clear. I used to wear mine on my right hand – and the only reason was because on my left it seemed to interfere with my guitar technique. And my wife, being left-handed, preferred wearing hers on her right as well.
We took them off last year. :(
Don’t suppose it fits on any other finger?
The right hand is also the common hand for most Europeans.
I know at one point that the US convention was L = married, R = widowed, but I don’t think most people know that significance now.
Wes has a point, but I see yours too. Is there something you could do with the ring to make it wearable and yet less wedding-ring? (I don’t recall seeing what it looks like, so I don’t know). Turn the stones into earrings? have a locket mount made for the ring and a sturdier necklace constructed?
Or simply wear it until you’re ready not to. It may lead to some confusion, but anyone worth their salt will get to know you and understand.
wow, that’s hard. While you might be scaring away honorable men, the truth is, once a man got to know you (which is the goal) he would understand about the ring….its hard to say…I think Wes’s point is valid but still….
On the other hand if you are just looking for one night stands…leave the ring at home for sure *smirk*
Have you ever considered taking the ring to a jeweler and having it fashioned into some other kind of jewelry? Maybe a different type of ring or a lovely charm for a necklace?
With this, as with all things you will figure out what works for you.
A lot of divorced women wear the ring on the right hand. I think it’s pretty much a clue that you were married but are no more.
I doubt it really chases anyone away. Might make them wonder but I doubt it’s a show stopper.