During Saturday’s Annual Ho Ho Ho Run, Mark described how this year he got a grocery store tree instead of heading into the mountains to cut one down as he usually does. Earlier in the week my friend, Wendy admitted doing the same. And as my friends’ deviate from their Christmas tree traditions, I found myself doing the same.
One factor that came into play this year was my little car. It seems the MommyVan was good for things like dog hauling and tree toting. *sigh* But another consideration was the one that hit hard: it seems that the majority of the Christmas season would NOT be spent at home. And if I’m not going to be home, than is it right to kill a tree just so my home will smell like Christmas when I am?
I decided that an artificial tree made a whole lot of sense and soon we were heading off to find just the right one. That was easier said than done. Have you seen how much these trees cost? I selected a 6′ tree, brought it home, and immediately began assembly. Right away, I didn’t like it. The tree was anorexic looking. Don’t the artificial tree makers know that Christmas trees are supposed to be wider at the bottom.
As we began hanging the ornaments, I became more and more depressed. While our tree trimming experience was slightly different from last year, there remains the same underlying sadness. Our family still feels broken. With DD staying in Southern California for the holidays, I began wondering how I could manage to find joy in the day. More importantly, how would I ever bring enough joy to the day for my boys’ sake?
I took a break from the tree trimming and went upstairs for a hot shower. Almost immediately, I realized how silly it was to keep a tree that I didn’t like. I yelled down to YaYa to remove the ornaments so that we could return the tree and get one that we would like year after year.
Unfortunately, the tree that I wanted was sold out — in all 3 stores that we went to. At one point, I sat in my car in tears. Lil Sis talked me down off the ledge. Focus on the positive, she urged.